Do you feel overwhelmed at times? Does sorting out your finances depress you? Does the very thought of trying to find something to wear in your crowded closet leave you standing looking lost?
This is the story of my life before I discovered The KonMari Method of decluttering.
When you are surrounded by clutter it makes it very difficult to be relaxed, efficient and successful. If it takes 20 minutes to find a critical document or sifting through endless tops to find the right one to wearyou many not have found the most rewarding way of living.
I will say I am not a minimalist! I still have hundreds of books and too many clothes but what I do know is that each time I declutter my physical space there is an amazing side affect.
My mental space!
A serene and calm physical space leads beautifully into having a peaceful and sharp mind. I am able to see solutions to problems more clearly, I have more time to fill my mind with interesting knowledge (I love reading!) and best of all it keeps my monkey brain at bay. Why this happens is unknown to me. As a consequence of lapsing back into having things for the sake of having things, I have noticed over the years that when this occurs I tend to lose my equanimity! The moment I declutter my equanimity and creativity return!
If your physical space is cluttered I cannot recommend enough ‘The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organising’ by Marie Kondo or listening to Tim Ferriss’s podcast #234 with Marie! Her system may seem brutal as you read the book but as you go through EVERYTHING in your house, one category at a time and ask yourself “Does this bring me joy?” you will soon realise how much stuff in your world isn’t bringing you joy! The old shoes that you were going to get repaired, the jacket with the price tag on it you have never worn and the gifts from friends or family that just don’t do anything for you but you keep for the sake of not upsetting anyone. If it doesn’t bring you joy it has to go!
One of the most amazing mental decluttering processes was developed in Alcoholics Anonymous. Part of getting sober is conducting an inventory of yourself in Step 4 which is‘Made a searching and moral inventory of ourselves.’ This method includes writing down everything you have done to another person that still weighs you down (it might be stealing from a shop at 8), everything you perceive has been done to you, what areas of your life it affected, your fears, your sexual conduct (that can be very interesting!) and at the end you shared it with another and God to release the hold these past events had over you. I have done this process twice in my life and both times it allowed me to feel lighter and less mentally cluttered.
Denise Duffield-Thomas course – Lucky Bitch Bootcamp – introduced me to perhaps the most amazing mental decluttering method. While aimed at dealing with money blocks I realised that I could use it for much MUCH more! By effectively writing down all the things that bugged me, filled my mind, pissed me off or things I felt were holding me back.I then read each sentence and really felt the feelings associated with it and used EFT to tap away the baggage. When I finished tapping I simply crossed it off and moved to the next. After I finished my list I felt a little deflated and emotionally. I had been allowing what effectively was bullshit to weigh me down. The next morning however I felt calm and serene!
I have no doubt this is a method I will be using more often in the future as new ‘bullshit’ comes up! Cause we all know bullshit keeps coming!
Tell me about your clutter and decluttering methods!