Watching the physical transformation of a woman that is owning her awesomeness is nothing short of brilliant! I see it in my yoga students, triathletes and life and wellness clients!
What I hear from a lot of women is that they don’t actually know how to start the transformation. They are stuck in a place that doesn’t resonate with them. They know they aren’t living the life they hoped for but sadly they get paralysed and feel stuck. There is so much information overload on the internet. Do this, do that, no don’t do this because XYZ, do this instead, take this pill, this shake, buy this dress, by this pair of shoes and you will feel amazing! Well I am calling it all BULLSHIT!
Why do I call all that bullshit? Simple – transformation comes from within. Do you need a little help to get there? Of course you do!
Let me tell you a story that really started one of my most transformative periods. My heart had been ripped out by lies and betrayal. My, lets call him ‘Liar’ rather than boyfriend, was actually not who he said he was. Six months of lies and the twisted web saw me laying on my bathroom floor wishing I wasn’t there.
So what did I do? I started to transform myself.
How do you start over when you discover the truth about the situation you’ve walk away from. First, you go through a roller-coaster of emotions, which at times feel like they are going to kill you. Shame, hatred, hurt, loneliness, sadness and sheer desperation just to name a few. One moment you feel okay with what has happened and how you handled it, the next you want to have the reason for your pain to be standing in front of you so you can yell at them again. This achieves nothing in the end and being graceful and letting them go is much more beneficial for yourself.
Second, you rally family and friends around you. Amazingly, I quickly realise that though one person will no longer be in my life there are plenty of others who mean the world to me and I meant the world to them. Dinner with friends and home cooked meals can heal the dark spots on the heart. Kind words from loved ones helped me remember I was whole before I meet him and I was whole now!
Third, (This is where the magic happens) you make new dreams. A years worth of holidays had been planned so instead of still planning on going where you might have gone together, pick new holidays. I choose instead to plan an African Adventure Year. All of my holidays for 2012 were spent in Africa. I climbed Mt Kilimanjaro (Tanzania) and Mt Toubkal (Morocco) along with visiting family in Zambia, did a 5 Star holiday in Djibouti, and also went to Vietnam.
And lastly, something happened to me! I became this warrior goddess that knew deep in my heart that was put on this earth for much more than what I was doing! I now have the honour and privilege of helping women transform their lives. Not all of them come to me through heartache as deep as mine but they all come with a desire, a burning desire, to be their most authentic selves and challenge themselves to be extraordinary.
Do you long for change and transformation? Get in contact for a free 20 minute discovery call to see how I can help!